One of the prominent themes in a Course in Miracles (ACIM) is about others being your brother. Theoretically, this sounds really good but it can be difficult to apply. It is one thing to love your brother when they are being lovable; but it's quite another to love them when they're not. When you make a judgment they've done something wrong or harmed you in some way, you won't be able to share love with them. The ego will judge them not worthy of love because they have caused you harm. This comes from the original break up and not being worthy of God's love. You cannot offer another what you think a sensational scene.
ACIM is clear: No error has occurred. No break up has happened. Because you successfully see another body, you assume (judgment) that this person is different, and difference means break up to the ego mind. The illusion of a separate identity is thus made real. Specialness now exists freeing the ego to manufacture a God who will "give" you the special love the other vengeful God dissmissed off during the sin of the original break up. Specialness also reaches to your inlaws whom the ego uses replace the love of the vengeful God.david hoffmeister audios
What does it take to see another as your brother? Let's break down the components but bear in mind that even with these understandings, it is going to come down to your enthusiasm to ignore judgment and doing the actual work of undoing the ego.
Special Relationships:
These special relationships replace the love of God. They can be love or hate relationships, but either way, they use the "wrong" or "right" mind of the ego. If you do one little thing an ego family court judges wrong, it goes from adore to hate faster than the blink of an eye. To think God would do this is to believe the lie of the ego that God is vengeful and He attacks. You would only attack others because you believe the same lie about yourself. These are judgments you must be able to hand over for correction (forgiveness). Only the ego family court judges and attacks. You are not your ego.
Absolutely all relationships are special until you choose to make them Holy. You cannot see others as your brother if you are involved in judgment and projection. The darkness blinds you to their light as well as your own. Holy Relationships are used by the Holy Spirit for correction of the mind (forgiveness). This makes the options to see another as a brother an experience which becomes real. The only way any relationship becomes a Holy Relationship is, for at least one of you, to be practicing forgiveness. Seeing someone as a brother means doing this even if you are the only one in the relationship able to give up judgment. What you do as cause will be your effect.
Specialness:
Another favorite employed by the ego to keep you from seeing another as your brother is to try using your own specialness as a way to increase break up. If you see yourself as better, or different, you are considered special. God's special love will shine with you because you stand out because they are unique.
Examples: Bigger versus shorter. College degree(s) versus uneducated. Good looking versus ugly. Wealthy versus poor. Healthy versus sick. The list goes on and on and remember that either side is a trick as both are still the ego mind. You can be unique because of your illness the maximum amount of as having your health. Remember, the ego's judgments are one or the other. It knows no other way.
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